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There’s a million and one reasons to be downright SCARED of meeting your other half’s mother. Personally speaking, I’ve never been one to be LOVED by anyone’s mom (or dad for that matter). I was always kind of the wild card; a rough around the edges type that parents consistently frowned upon and I guess it kind of just stuck with me. So two years ago when I met my current’s mom, I was nervous.. no I was terrified in fact. It had been brought to my attention that she took a STRONG liking to my guy’s former flame-which is fine, I just wish I hadn’t discovered that. I knew I had HUGE shoes to fill and hoped to make a decent impression. The day of her arrival came and I was a mess. I had just wrapped a shoot with The Fiends and in addition to my caked on makeup, I had press-on’s attached to my fingers by a heavy dose of nail glue (a nail NO NO). Between scrubbing my face, RE-APPLYING my face, soaking and scraping my nails, and finding the “right” outfit… I was trying my hardest to fabricate an excuse to back out of our meeting. My current didn’t buy it. Needless to say, the meeting was a success and all is well in the world (besides being deleted from her Facebook 
) Here’s what you need to know when YOU meet mom:
1. DO NOT inquire about the relationship between mom and ex. Bottom line, you DON’T want to go there. If your significant other imposes too much info on you, stop them in their tracks (as I should have). This will save you from feeling inadequate, insecure, or in-ANYTHING really.
2. Put your best face forward. If you’re a makeup junkie like myself, bring it down a notch. If you’re a minimalist, amp it up a bit. Don’t try any new hair styles, cuts, or colors. Put forth a polished version of YOURSELF. If you’re stubborn and think “if she doesn’t like me for who I AM then forget it”… think again. You want YOUR family to have a good impression on your own newcomer right? So clean it up and keep it moving.
3. When it comes to dressing, basics are your bff. That’s fine if you prefer PVC over a puff sleeved cardigan, just save it for another time. Flats, wedges, or sandals (pedicure please) should be worn vs. stilettos… ONLY because you don’t want to run the risk of stumbling all over the place-especially if there is wine at dinner- which brings me to an especially sensitive subject…
4. DON’T GET DRUNK!! Alcohol is a great way to loosen up stiff nerves, but before you reach for the bottle, keep this in mind: NO ONE LIKES A LUSH. I made the embarrassing mistake of drinking too much red wine and became brave enough to declare how “hot” my boyfriend’s family was. DON’T DO THIS.
5. Make sure your other half minds his/her manners enough to PROPERLY introduce you: “Mom, this is my GIRLFRIEND, So-and-So”, as well as keep the conversation going. There is nothing worse than uncomfortably sharing silence. *I capitalized “girlfriend” since the term “friend” is insulting when in fact, you’re more than that. Think of the first time Carrie met Big’s mom in church. Hello awkward!
6. Going hand in hand with rule #4, DON’T TAKE DRUGS. There is a pill for everything these days, but calm your nerves au natural. Save your Soma coma for a rainy day.
7. Mind your OWN manners. Say please and thank you and check your teeth often.
8. Worst case scenario: You’re called by the ex’s first name. Don’t fret… just breathe and politely state that you would LOVE to have such a COMMON name as hers
9. Send a follow up note via SNAIL MAIL: “Dear Ms. So-and-So, thanks so much for inviting me to meet you and your lovely family… the meatloaf was divine.” She’ll be impressed and thankful that her son/daughter has found someone so thoughtful.
10. Relax and enjoy yourself. Remember that “Ms. So-and So” is a woman too, one with her own flaws and insecurities. And in the end, if she doesn’t like you for who you are then forget it
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lol Soma Coma… I’ve never had a problem with meeting the family, but having HIM meet the family… thats another story. I dunno if my family is a little intense or if I tend to date non-family types.
Good tips. I hid my tattoos for the first few visits too. First impression is everything
Same here Cha- never been a problem, my parents raised a very polite and well mannered lady
I can hold a conversation about anything really so…
The drunk and pill part is halarious!
Love.
I’ve never really had issues. Maybe once.
Summer ~ you need to right a book on these guidelines girl! Always so good!
#4 is a must! WTF?!!!!!! LMFAO
@camille thanks girl! I would love to write a book! For now I’ll start with these
@Oscar #4 is probably why I got deleted from FB. LOL!